Some thoughts on self-validation in today’s world
I often wonder why so many of us require the supporting opinions of others to be sure of our own opinions whether written or expressed.
Instead we seek to know what someone with more authority thinks of what we say or write. We look to ministers to support our native notions of spiritual and religious matters.
We listen to news pundits and friends who’s opinion matters more than trust our own views on politics. We generally believe without question our doctors instead of hearing the truths our own bodies tell us.
Rather than stand up for ourselves, we shrink from confronting others if they show signs of contradicting what we believe is true without understanding that diversity of opinion is as creative as false solidarity.
I sometimes wonder whether the all-encompassing new cycle fosters this self doubt. We turn on the television or radio, sometimes leaving a machine to tell us what phantoms of human beings are trying to convince us is the truth. Broadcasters are often the worst offenders: news anchors invite other news colleagues to tell us all that their colleagues have the answers.
In our present and often viciously divided electorate, it may seem safer to fortify ourselves with assurances that our own minds are not up to the task of knowing ourselves.
We worry that our conversation is not witty enough, that our writing fails to persuade or even communicate. But this is more of a personal insecurity than is warranted by objective thinking.
As a result, we spin like the old gyroscopes but without any assurance that we will stop and know our direction. Unless we consult our smart phones, we don’t know where we are going or how to get there.
Take time to be objective about yourself. It may sound scary at first, but once we get the hang of trusting ourselves we contribute to a healthier society and democracy.